The "FEAR" Factor

In this era we are all striving on to getting over our so called "FEARS"  so much so that there have been reality shows on it. (Hail the show bizz and the adventure sports business 😉). People are gearing up to face their array of fears. Someone is jumping off a cliff to get over their fear of height, then you have peeps getting over their fear of water by diving into the deep oceans(count me in this one) on the other hand someone else is trying hard literally crapping in their pants to get over their fear of darkness and so on and so forth. Apparently its the new buzz about facing your fear or rather getting over them makes one stronger...hmmmm!!! Could be!!! Having said that these are all the fears of external factors isn't it? 🤔 Let me ask you this what about facing our fears other than the ones based on these factors. Quite often we don't realise that
 there are deep rooted hidden fears dwelling inside of us. So what are these inner fears ? Lets put our shields down and lay them out on the table - fear of rejection , fear of loneliness , fear of underachieving, fear of being cornered , fear of accepting your own emotions, fear of society, fear of relationship, fear of loosing, fear of commitment, fear of change etc. etc. Its a laundry list. Let me take the liberty here of saying that one gets stronger when we get over our inner fears too. Now that's  a real deal. Its funny how we go announcing our external fear factors but so neatly and skillfully camouflage our inner fears. We humans have mastered this art.
I figured there are 3 phases of The Fear Cycle (purely speaking out of my own experience) 1st phase - "To Identify",  2nd phase - "To accept" (now that takes courage) , 3rd phase - "To work" on them(the toughest part). I have been through all these phases and now pretty much in the last leg of it - "Working on my inner fears" , must say doing a fair job 😉 haha !! I for years was in denial and walked around like a woman in armour. Created this invisible shield around me to wade off people and certain emotions. A friend of mine always laughed at me saying girl you wear an armour showing you are tough but inside you wear the softest of underpants(bonkers!!!), you should instead wear an armour on the inside and be soft on the outside, meaning being tough from the inside instead of portraying to be tough on the outside. That's when I discovered one of my inner fears. I feared being hurt - that's 1st phase. This armour story was relayed to me a couple of times that's when I clawed up to my 2nd phase of acceptance. Then someone recently told me if you can jump into the ocean in spite of fearing water you can certainly try taking baby dips into things that you have been scared off (inner fears) that's when I had a eureka moment 💡and I told my self "Yes !! May Be I should work on it", so I loosened up and let go of the inhibitions - 3rd phase it is (Voila!!) Sometimes you just need that little nudge or a gentle reminder for you to realise 😊. If I can do it so can you. Don't hold yourself back, start with the 1st phase it wont be long until you reach the 3rd phase of facing your inner fears and when you are in the process of overcoming them it leaves a sweet sense of freedom ! None of us are perfect, we all have a naive spot within us so its OK to have certain fears and inhibitions(don't be too hard on yourself). Accepting our inner fears does not make us look weak on the contrary its the path of getting stronger in TRUE sense .