Lets talk about Love 😉!! I have been battling this phenomenon called Love since I was pretty young. I never really understood the whole concept that world talks about and feels about . Everyone is more or less always in search and needy of this sweet poison. And comes from any source - family, partner, friends, pets, stranger etc. But I still don't get it. Again adding a disclaimer here "speaking for myself" , in my journey so far I always felt love is a selfish feeling. In the name of love (laaauuveee I say 😉 ha ha) people get demanding, obsessive, controlling not to forget clingy etc (trust me i can use an array of adjectives here). Love becomes a kind of bondage and we as i mentioned get so needy that we end up trading our individuality to love.
If I were to be asked what do I need or yearn well it would be respect, care, sense of freedom and warmth! May be it all together sums up to the word love. But in the recent times we have all collectively changed the definition of it. If you claim to love someone you set them free and not blackmail them, you get happiness in their happiness, you don't dictate terms to them, you don't victimise yourself...phew!!!Like i always say, If you claim to give or get love, it has to uplift and liberate you and not chain you down as a hostage (oops may be a strong word here). How many of us have sacrificed our dreams and killed our other feelings because someone claims to love us and means well. May be a lot of us. Now let me take another angle on this - Self Love (apparently that's the new jargon these days 😉). I would perhaps call it self belief and self worth. But to make it easier for the larger people pool to comprehend lets call it the way it is - "Self Love". Looking at this factor a bit more closely, how many of us today focus on ourselves before we get all needy for someone else to love us? Very few i suppose. As they say charity begins at home similarly love begins with you first . You can spread it only when you are full of it. My near and dear ones keep teasing me that I am self absorbed and have a high quotient of self love. And I am like why not, how can i expect someone else to love me when i lack that very same feeling towards my own self. Let me clear the air here by clarifying there is a mountain big difference between narcissism and self love. No one is asking you to get self obsessed here ha ha 😋. Lets begin to accept, appreciate and love our self first before we go holding the binoculars and searching for it all across the globe. Lets go back to the ancient time when love was a total different ball game altogether.You must have seen that kind of love(in my words respect and appreciation) in relationships that our great grand parents/grand parents had which we lack in ours. Is the modernity actually killing our emotional intelligence and increasing our dependency or selfishness ? I don't know..may be something for all of us to think about !!!!!
If I were to be asked what do I need or yearn well it would be respect, care, sense of freedom and warmth! May be it all together sums up to the word love. But in the recent times we have all collectively changed the definition of it. If you claim to love someone you set them free and not blackmail them, you get happiness in their happiness, you don't dictate terms to them, you don't victimise yourself...phew!!!Like i always say, If you claim to give or get love, it has to uplift and liberate you and not chain you down as a hostage (oops may be a strong word here). How many of us have sacrificed our dreams and killed our other feelings because someone claims to love us and means well. May be a lot of us. Now let me take another angle on this - Self Love (apparently that's the new jargon these days 😉). I would perhaps call it self belief and self worth. But to make it easier for the larger people pool to comprehend lets call it the way it is - "Self Love". Looking at this factor a bit more closely, how many of us today focus on ourselves before we get all needy for someone else to love us? Very few i suppose. As they say charity begins at home similarly love begins with you first . You can spread it only when you are full of it. My near and dear ones keep teasing me that I am self absorbed and have a high quotient of self love. And I am like why not, how can i expect someone else to love me when i lack that very same feeling towards my own self. Let me clear the air here by clarifying there is a mountain big difference between narcissism and self love. No one is asking you to get self obsessed here ha ha 😋. Lets begin to accept, appreciate and love our self first before we go holding the binoculars and searching for it all across the globe. Lets go back to the ancient time when love was a total different ball game altogether.You must have seen that kind of love(in my words respect and appreciation) in relationships that our great grand parents/grand parents had which we lack in ours. Is the modernity actually killing our emotional intelligence and increasing our dependency or selfishness ? I don't know..may be something for all of us to think about !!!!!
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