Last month there was a wedding in the family. Well the word wedding leads to a lot of F's 😋 (pun intended lol) fun, frolic , family re-union , food etc. I want to write or rather elaborate a tad bit more on the "family re-union" piece. So since some of us met after a long time obviously there were pleasantries exchanged , asked about the current whereabouts and so on. There are levels of questions asked. Some people are quite mindful and know where to stop, lets call them type A and then the type B who are like fire balls, they want to get down to the details of every bit and corner of your life and they ensure there are no stones unturned. What starts with a simple how are you ? , What are you up to these days ? Stretches to asking way more personal questions about how much are you earning ? Why are you living alone ? Why are you not marrying ? , who are you neighbour's? and the trail of questions are never ending. I get inquisitive on their inquisitive attitude about my life. I am curious to know what do the type B people do with all the information they gather from everyone they talk to ?? - Write thesis on human behaviour ?? lol
Irony is the more you answer, more are the questions asked until you find an excuse to bail out of that conversation or give them stern looks . You end up meeting the type B people not only at the family re-unions but their existence is pretty much everywhere - social gatherings, religious congregations, school/college functions etc. Type B people are like wood peckers they never get tired of pecking your brains with questions. The other day when i reached my threshold of tolerating any further rantings about my life, I told this certain someone that I am not a celebrity for you to be so curious about my life. I ain't that famous and any gossip about me is not important to anyone BUT you, so don't waste your time and energy in digging into my life(a cynical way of saying - Mind your own business) I laughed out and walked away leaving the person partly embarrassed and partly furious. Its a simple equation, if I am not asking it clearly means neither am I interested in answering personal questions by random people. Oh and how can i forgot, the type B people are quite sly, they add a prefix to their questions like "please don't mind me asking", " please don't feel bad " or the best one "i know its wrong to ask but" etc. Well if you know your questions will be minded , or are wrong then WHY ARE YOU ASKING !!! Hehe ..well well..
As the title of the blog says "to ask or not to ask" , its important that we respect peoples privacy and be more mindful of what is being asked. You don't know what state of mind the other person is in or what stage of life he or she is at. The questions might just add to the grief or discomfort . And not like knowing about someones life details is getting you any medals. Quite often i have seen my friends or dear ones avoid public interactions or facing the crowd at a social gathering because they don't want to be nagged with questions. Like if someone has lost a job or lost someone to death or is going through a break up then there are people who ensure that they remind them of the trauma over and over again with all the awkward questions. JUST LET THEM BE!! There are times when one doesn't want to share information or give answers.
Now that's one category of questions, the other annoying category are the fleet of the most obvious and silly questions that have no significance. There are these fantastic humans (100% sarcasm involved) who on the pretext of making a conversation ask you the most absurd questions for which you have absolutely no answer to. In spite of not getting any answers, they are determined to irritate the life out of you and never give up... Sigh !! Is all this really necessary ? The next time you open your mouth to ask something remember - Be kind ...Be Nice...Be Compassionate...it doesn't cost a thing.😊😊😊
Irony is the more you answer, more are the questions asked until you find an excuse to bail out of that conversation or give them stern looks . You end up meeting the type B people not only at the family re-unions but their existence is pretty much everywhere - social gatherings, religious congregations, school/college functions etc. Type B people are like wood peckers they never get tired of pecking your brains with questions. The other day when i reached my threshold of tolerating any further rantings about my life, I told this certain someone that I am not a celebrity for you to be so curious about my life. I ain't that famous and any gossip about me is not important to anyone BUT you, so don't waste your time and energy in digging into my life(a cynical way of saying - Mind your own business) I laughed out and walked away leaving the person partly embarrassed and partly furious. Its a simple equation, if I am not asking it clearly means neither am I interested in answering personal questions by random people. Oh and how can i forgot, the type B people are quite sly, they add a prefix to their questions like "please don't mind me asking", " please don't feel bad " or the best one "i know its wrong to ask but" etc. Well if you know your questions will be minded , or are wrong then WHY ARE YOU ASKING !!! Hehe ..well well..
As the title of the blog says "to ask or not to ask" , its important that we respect peoples privacy and be more mindful of what is being asked. You don't know what state of mind the other person is in or what stage of life he or she is at. The questions might just add to the grief or discomfort . And not like knowing about someones life details is getting you any medals. Quite often i have seen my friends or dear ones avoid public interactions or facing the crowd at a social gathering because they don't want to be nagged with questions. Like if someone has lost a job or lost someone to death or is going through a break up then there are people who ensure that they remind them of the trauma over and over again with all the awkward questions. JUST LET THEM BE!! There are times when one doesn't want to share information or give answers.
Now that's one category of questions, the other annoying category are the fleet of the most obvious and silly questions that have no significance. There are these fantastic humans (100% sarcasm involved) who on the pretext of making a conversation ask you the most absurd questions for which you have absolutely no answer to. In spite of not getting any answers, they are determined to irritate the life out of you and never give up... Sigh !! Is all this really necessary ? The next time you open your mouth to ask something remember - Be kind ...Be Nice...Be Compassionate...it doesn't cost a thing.😊😊😊
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